Communication, coordination and logistics are at the heart of co-parenting.
As cliché as it sounds, where does the time go? This holiday season my little one was on “high demand” by all family members. She was with her father on Christmas Eve, me on Christmas day and with other family members on the last two days of the week.
To be clear, so far this week, she was with me about two solid days (Monday & Christmas Day). I’m picking her back up tonight.
While shuttling back and forth these three days, I had a mini revelation / duh moment. Divorce and co-parenting are all about time. The time it takes taking your kids from one location to another. Checking in with the Ex to make sure you’re not overlapping on certain things or it doesn’t conflict with their time. The weekends or holidays missed. The underlying guilt (slight or not) of having missed out or not doing enough as a result.
Communication, coordination and logistics are at the heart of co-parenting. This may not seem any different from a traditional family but, it is. One holiday, three locations and one happy kid opening Christmas presents three days in a row.
As exhausting as it is, one very positive thought did come to mind. This will make her comfortable adapting to different situations and different people. This thought puts me a little more at ease while getting things done.
Time Management - Weekly calendar review
Set Goals: List out your activities, appointments, meetings, events, me-time, etc.
Prioritize: Reviewing your calendar and listing your goals for the week will help you organize and manage your time better
Boundaries: Set and state your boundaries. Learn to feel comfortable saying no. Feel to reschedule or cross things out that don’t allow you to become more efficient.
Action: Do what you have set out to do. Be flexible and ok with yourself if you’re not able to accomplish it all, but make sure you’re actively doing a majority of the things on your list.
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