How much are you tapping into you?
There’s plenty of conversation right now on self-love, self-worth etc. It’s so broad that I wonder if sometimes it borders on selfishness. There’s a thin line between self-love and a$$hole. #facts
Self-love can be practiced in a million and one different ways, spa day, baseball range, traveling, taking a stand and distancing one self from toxic people. By toxic people, I mean individuals that make you doubt yourself, constantly say negative things, don’t encourage anything you do or say, etc. This is not to be mistaken with individuals that simply have a difference of opinion.
I’ll share with you that I’m a Black Sheep amongst my flock. I’ve been called cheap and inconsiderate plenty of times. For example, in the process of buying a home I was expected by my mother to find a space on a single parent income to accommodate not one, but two of my brothers, one of which has a family. After many a heated discussion it finally sank in that I simply can’t.
Now this feeds into a conversation I had this morning with a good friend on generational wealth and breaking patterns. It’s the mentality of we're in this together. Sink or swim. Um, no thanks – I’d rather stay afloat on my raft alone. Thank you very much. If that isn’t an act of self-love, I don’t know what is.
This makes me wonder, what actions are we taking with the best of intentions that are hurting more than helping. By hurting, I mean, hurting you and only you. There’s some murky water to be trekked here. The person asking for help is family or like family. You know full well their circumstances, but you’re keenly aware that by extending your hand they are pulling you down too.
At which point do you say, enough? One of the effects of practicing self-love is a perceived coolness that feels like alienation or indifference to others. At this point you are inconsiderate, selfish, uppity, and all that good stuff. This act of self-love is necessary.
Breaking a pattern can be challenging, but if the good outweighs the bad it’s worth it in the long run. Is it incredibly uncomfortable for you and those in your vicinity at that moment? Absolutely. Does this make you an a$$hole? I don’t think so.
Digging deep and finding one’s inner strength to break away from one’s perceived notions and world views in order to create a life that is true to your person is never a bad thing.
#selflove always!